Self-care: Not a Special Treat

November 16, 2016

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  • Thanks for the multiple breaths of fresh air here. Keep up the good work!

  • I love the distinction between self-care and treats. Knitting is (can be) self-care; a yarn splurge is a treat.

    Right now, I’ve got a big emotional load at home and it’s extra hard to try to adopt the Big Problems I see outside and see my friends talking about. I hope it’s enough to self-care for my family and myself and chip in a little when I can and reject the “you can do more” shouts I hear from inside and outside. I guess this means self-care is staying off Facebook and having coffee with friends instead.

  • Life on Earth > solid program of chore execution is my new mantra!

  • That Laurie Penny article is really interesting. Self care often for me isn’t about treats but about time. Not having to rush, enough time to cook from scratch, enough rest. Enough convivial company. And yes how much should we be doing in the world to make it a better place so hard to know and do in a way that isn’t damaging. I’m ill this week so I’ve been knitting hats for refugees and sending donations as they are doable for me.

  • Love this, Max! Thanks for the great distinction between self-care and a treat.

  • So what do you do for self care, Max? (Besides a big bowl of green chili of course!)

    • Good question. Lots of things but what I’m looking at now is a tendency to minimize my need for physical care. Does the forecast call for an umbrella? I reflexively say Oh I won’t really get that wet. Not planning for the most obvious future needs – breaking that habit of mind is my focus. It’s surprisingly pervasive and so rewarding to work with.

  • Oh my goodness, what a wonderful article. I thought I was the only one who believed being on this earth= never ending chores! I will definitely pay more attention now to self care of the mind and enjoy my knitting even more.

  • Yes. Thank you.

  • Yes, yes and yes!!!

  • I heard something similar in a tai chi class once, that the Chinese translation of our “help others” goal includes keeping yourself fit enough so that you can be a help to others, not be a burden. In other words, getting regular exercise is a way to “help others” because you’ll feel better. I know, not as fun as a treat!

  • Extremely well put! I hadn’t thought about the difference between self-care and treats. It’s one of those tiny shifts that creates a revolution.Thank you.

  • Another aspect of self-care is paying attention to older women and the wisdom we have. We have the chops to get this far in life, so how did we do it? Spend time with us, treat us to what you think of as spoiling yourself with a mani-pedi, or a trip to the museum. You’ll get so much back!

    • Barb, good one. I love this. Consider me as asking! What do you want us to know. How have you gotten this far in life? WHAT IS YOUR SECRET? Thank you 🙂